Is this just all about sex?

Any relationship which is built solely on sex is doomed to fail. However, physical intimacy is an essential part of marriage.

Romance has many faces. It can be something you do for your partner such as buying a gift, performing an act of service or arranging a special date but it can also be an act of physical intimacy - yes, sex can be romantic too.

Remember back to your first dates, the world seemed new and exciting - right? Every date was a voyage of discovery and was an event that you put time and effort into. You got dressed up, did your best to impress and just enjoyed being together and getting to know each other. You probably bought each other little surprise gifts and put a lot of thought into what clothes you would wear and what perfume or aftershave you put on whenever you met. Your first sexual encounters were also exciting and fulfilling. You enjoyed each other and felt a strong connection during those intimate times.

Over time, the 'magic' fades. Your dates become few and far between and you don't put much effort into them when they do happen. Gift giving has probably stopped and sex, when it happens, is not as fulfilling and exciting as it once was.

Renewing your romance requires thought and effort in all these areas. Let's face it, if you could be romantic without thinking about it, you wouldn't be reading this!

Dates, gifts and other romantic gestures are one part of the process of revitalising your marriage but recommitting to each other physically is equally as important.

While sex cannot be the foundation of a great marriage, it is one of the building blocks. Sex is an experience which is (or at least should be) shared only between the two partners in a marriage. It is something that draws you together in a way nothing else can, it is yours and yours alone and should not be underestimated as a way of strengthening and cementing your relationship.

There are countless resources out there to help you on your way, try our bookstore for just some of the many great books available to teach you how to rebuild and then maintain your relationship.

You could also give Bliss a try. Bliss is an excellent way to build emotional and physical intimacy. Click here to read more